I was researching some of the power play dynamics in Kinbaku-bi and came across some interesting thoughts. Whereas Western bondage is typically seen as a role reversal kind of deal – you know the high powered executive who likes to be tied up and flogged after a hard day of flogging others mentally – kinbaku-bi is different in that the dom, because he or she controls when and how often the sub orgasms, in fact becomes one with the sub. If it’s a male female couple, then the male in essence wants to become one with the woman and experience the orgasm through her orgasm. Odd stuff, will have to check it out in practice one day after “learning the ropes”.
